Monday, August 10, 2009

Five Truths

Anyone that's heard me ramble about philosophy knows that the idea of truth-being-perception (or, the lack of absolute/universal truth) is rather close to my heart. One event that's good for me could be bad for you, and this also goes for people, ideas, things, etc. While surfing around the good ol' net I came across a book called Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find By Embracing Them by David Richio.

I'm not planning on getting the book, but the summary does list these five things:
1. Everything changes and ends
2. Things do not always go as planned
3. Life is not always fair
4. Pain is a part of life
5. People are not loyal and loving all the time

Unfortunately, the summary did not list the Happiness We Find By Embracing Them.
Fortunately, that leaves us more room to speculate upon it and come up with our own ideas.

So if you'd like to see my thoughts on each of these Five Things, simply click below the cut and read on!

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1. Everything changes and ends
This is probably the very first everybody will have to accept. Knowing this helps us through our hard times and humbles us through our good times by reminding us that things will get better when you're down, but they can also fall apart when you're up. The latter may be more depressing than the former, but like I said, it humbles us. If we're not aware of risks and consequences, how ever will we learn how to bounce back from them?
I think it also teaches us to live in the moment, but plan for the future. You don't have to be super anal about everything you do from now on, but you would have to remember that not everything is permanent. Not your job, your interests, your relationships, even your ideals. So live it up, every day, because while we're all changing, it's good to at least make the moment memorable.

2. Things do not always go as planned
I feel like this one was written just for me :P I tend to get really flustered when things don't exactly go my way, and lately I've been working on staying flexible when it happens. Because if they don't go your way, what're you gonna do about it? You can either sit and sulk, or go with the flow and make the best of it. And since you can't do anything about the past, might as well put your energies into what you CAN change: the present.

3. Life is not always fair
"Life isn't fair—it's how you deal with it that counts."
I will never forget these words so famously (well, to me) uttered in my 8th grade history class by my teacher, Mr. Rosenthal. Up to that point I was busy being an angsty teenager whose life was, like, so totally unfair and stuff. This phrase opened my eyes, and has a lot to do with what I mentioned in point #2. Things which you have no control over can and will happen (remember point #1!), but the one thing you can control is how you handle it—and how you handle it will shape your entire personality, character, and life.

4. Pain is a part of life
This is probably the one we all wish weren't true, but know it is. However you decide to look at it—you caused the pain, someone else caused it, your god is testing you, the world is against you—pain is a part of life, and when we accept that, we stop making all the excuses I just rattled off. And once we accept that, we can get over it and get focused on dealing with it. I'm really big on dealing with it.

5. People are not loyal and loving all the time
This one is the hardest to swallow, at least for me, and I guess it still relates to point #1 about things changing and whatnot. Humans are naturally selfish, and everybody's lookin' out for Number One. So when it comes down to it, your friends, teachers, relatives, brothers, sisters, fathers, and mothers aren't always going to be your pillars of support. That isn't to say that you should lose trust in them completely, but rather you should not expect the world from them, because they cannot give the world to you—after all, they're trying to do that for themselves, too.


The basic gist of it all boils down to one important lesson: learn how to be self-sufficient. Learn to recognize problems and deal with them on your own. Learn not to use others as crutches. And most of all, learn. I don't care if you're 15 or 25 or 65, you do not know everything there is to know. Take a word from Jolls: everybody has a lot of learning to do, so you best keep your mind and senses open!


Feel free to leave a comment with your own thoughts on these Five Truths! :)

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